SIKH RELIGION AND DIVORCE

 

isK Drm Aqy “qlwk”

.gurU ipAwirE,

vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw vwihgurU jI kI Pqih]

Aj kl dy smwj ivc qlwk Awm islislw bxdw jw irhw hY[ isK smwj vI ies smwjk burweI qoN nhI b`c sikAw Aqy idnoo-idn ieh smwjk burweI vDdI nzr Aw rhI hY[

“s`cIAW srkwrW” sRI gurU gMRQ swihb jI mhwrwj jI dI hzUrI ivc AnMd kwrj krvwaux qoN bwAd, is`K ivAwhk joVy ies jIvn-iekrwr qy jIvn swQ qoN B`jdy Awm vyKy jw rhy hn! vyKw-vyKI ieh vyG vDdw jw irhw hY[ ijQy ijQy is`K BweIcwrw sMswr ivc vsdw hY, auQy auQy ieh smwjk burweI nwl hI vyKI jw rhI hY[ ijQy is`K prvwr cotI dIAW qy isKrW dIAW kdrW-kImqW nMU inBwaudy Awey hn qy bhuq lok inBw vI rhy hn, auQy Aj “qlwk” dI ieh smwjk burweI vI swfy smwj ivc bhulqw ivc PYlI nzr Aw rhI hY[

isK Drm ivc koeI qlwk nhI huMdw, nw hI AwigAw idqI geI hY qy nw hI isK Drm “qlwk” nMU prvwx krdw hY[ sRI gurU gRMQ swihb jI dI sm`ucI bwxI ivc iek vwrI vI “qlwk” Sbd nhI vriqAw igAw[ jy is`K Drm ivc qlwk prvwx kIqw igAw huMdw qW, mwP krnw, Swied iek gurm`q ivc “qlwk kwrj” dI vI rsm hoxI sI!

qlwk dI siQqI dy phuMcx dy keI kwrn huMdyy hn[ aunW ivcoN kuJ kwrn jwiez ho vI skdy hn! aunW siQqIAW ivc vI kuJ auprwly kIqy jw skdy hn qy krny bxdy vI hn[ loVINdI qbdIlI ilAwaux nwl irSqy mzbUq ho jWdy hn qy peIAW ivQW dUr ho skdIAW hn[ kuJ kwrn bhuq mmUlI vI hMudy hn ijnHW krky qlwk vl jwxW nw hI SoBdw hY sgoN by-loVw vI huMdw hY[ jy hr irSqy nMU mzbUq, cMgw qy vDyry suKdweI bxwaux nMU iek idlcsp cuxOqI smJ ky, ies qy kMm kIqw jwvy, auprwly kIqy jWx qW swfw smwj, swfy prvwr, swfIAW prvwrk kdrW kImqW ikqy dIAW ikqy isKrW qy phMuc jwx!

b`icAW dw Biv`K, mwipAW dI eykqw qy ipAwr qy inrBr hMudw hY Aqy prvwrk eykqw qy KVw hY[ AwiKAw igAw hY ik ijhVy b`cy iek sohxy hsdy, vsdy prvwr ivc v`fy huMdy hn auh BivK ivc Awp vI cMgy prvwr nMU auswrn dI izAwdw mwhrqw, sihj suBwie hI rKdy hn! ies dy ault ijhVy b`cy Awp tu`ty hoey prvwr ivc v`fy hMudy hn, auhnW dw Awpxw prvwr Awaux vwly smyN ivc iesy siQqI ivcoN lMGx dI ikqy izAwdw sMBwvnw rKdw hY! ieh Koj swieMsdwnW Aqy mwhr KojIAW vloN ho cukI hY Aqy AMkiVAW Anuswr ieh iek prvwxk scweI hY[

AwE ivcwrIey, ik jdoN iksy ivAwhk joVy (married couple) dI Ax-bx ho jwvy jW swfy smwj dw kI rol hoxw cwhIdw hY! AsI ieh lyK gurm`q Anuswr ivcwrWgy ikau ik AsI isK Drm Aqy AnMd kwrj bwry gl kr rhy hW[ vYsy bhuq swry ivcwr bVy sDwrn hox krky ikqy vI vrqoN ivc ilAwey jw skdy hn, Bwv zrUrI nhI ik joVw XW prvwr is`K Drm nwl sMbMDq hI hovy! koeI vI prvwr, iksy vI Drm nwl sMbMD rKx vwlw hovy, ienHW jugqIAW rwhI lwB auTw skdw hY[

ies qoN pihlW ik AsI ivAwhk jIvn ivc bxy iksy Ax-bx XW qlwk vwly islisly dI gl ivsQwr nwl krIey, AwE ies gl vl iDAwn dyeIey ik ivAwh Bwv AnMd kwrj vyly isiKAw dyx dI kI AihmIAq hY!

kuJ swl XW kih leIey iek dhwky XW do dhwikAW pihlW AnMd kwrj ivc lwvW qoN auprMq isiKAw idqI jWdI sI[ies ivc kuJ kImqI glW smJweIAW qy dsIAW jWdIAW sn[ mYnMU Awpxw bcpn Xwd hY jdoN myry dwdw jI, pRo: krqwr isMG jI (hoiSAwrpur vwly) iksy nw iksy AnMd kwrj ivc isiKAw idMdy huMdy sn[ iek Kws izkr sWJw krnw cwhuMdw hW[ cMfIgV ivc iek auGy prvwr dy bicAW dy AnMd kwrj ivc myry dwdw jI ny isiKAw idqI[ ivAwhy jwx vwly joVy (couple) Aqy sMgq nMU sMboDn krdy hoey ieh glW khIAW, ijs dw Bwv kuJ hyT ilKy vyrvy vwlw hY[

“ bIbw jI, Aj qoN bwAd Awpxy mwipAW dy nwl nwl Awpxy s`s-suhrw swihb nMU Awpxy hI mwpy smJxw!” ieh gl bVy pRBwvSwlI qrIky nwl dwdw jI suxw rhy sn[ ieqnI ku gl, myry iKAwl ivc sB ny ikqy hor vI suxI hovygIy pr ijhVI AglI gl dwdwjI ny ies dy nwl hI joV ky khI auuh dws ny ikqy hor hux q`k nhI suxI!

auh ieh sI ik “kwkw jI, Aj qoN bwAd Awp jI ny vI Awpxy s`s-shurw swihb nMU Awpxy hI mwpy smJxw hY! qy ausy qrW hI vrqxw hY ijvy Awpxy mwipAW nwl vrqIdw hY!” ieh gl dwdw jI ny aus qoN vI vD pRBwvSwlI qrIky nwl “kwkw jI” nMU sMboDn kridAW khI!

ikqnIAW sohxIAW Aqy suKdweI glW dwdw jI ny sWJIAW krnIAW AnMd kwrjW ivc! aunHW dw ieh lYkcr mYN jdoN d`s ku swl dw hovWgw, aus vyly suixAw sI[ Aj q`k, aunHW dI ieh gl, dws nMU Xwd hY qy pMFwl dw auh idRS vI ijs ivc suSoBq sMgq, sRI gurU gRMQ swihb jI dI hzUrI ivc ieh gl sux rhI sI[

smW kuJ Agy viDAw[ kuJ vIrW XW prvwrW ny dwdw jI nMU ieh kihxw ik isiKAW dyx dI kI loV hY? Aj kl dy b`cy bVy isAwxy hn, sB jwxdy hn[ qusI isiKAw nw idAw kro! ies dI kI loV hY?

dwdw jI, pRo krqwr isMG jI, Political Science dy pRoPYsr sn[ aunHW bVw sohxw qy FukvW jvwb dyxw ies gl dw! Awp jI ny kihxw ik jdoN iksy dyS dw pRDwn mMqrI, dyS dy pRDwn mMqrI bxn ligAW sON cukdw hY, kI auh aus vyly b`cw XW “inAwxW” huMdw hY? kI aus nMU pqw nhI huMdw ik aus dIAW kI kI izMmyvwrIAW hn? aus nMU sB kuJ pqw hox dy bwvjUd vI sON cukxI pYNdI hY[ jy iek pRDwn mMqrI nMU vI AwpxI Position qy bYTx ligAW sON cukxI pYNdI hY qW AsI Pyr kOx hW? swnMU vI isiKAw dyxI qy suxnI AqI zrUrI hY[ swnMU vI h`k nhI ik ibnW gRihsqI jIvn dIAW jugqIAW suixAW gRihsqI jIvn ivc pRvyS krIey[ ikqnw ipAwrw Logic aunHW ny sWJw krnw!

ieh ipCokV vyKdy qy mwxdy hoey, myrI smJ Anuswr Aj kl vI Aqy Awaux vwly AnMd kwrjW ivc vI, ieh isiKAw dyx dw pRogrwm hoxw cwhIdw hY[

siqguru imlY q gurmiq pweIAY swkq bwjI hwrI jIau ]3]

(pMnw 597, rwg soriT, pw:1)

Awau Awpxy ivSy vl Agy ivcwr vDweIey!

jdoN iksy joVy, Bwv pqI/ pqnI dI ikqy Axbx ho jwvy qW kI krnw bxdw hY[ vYsy qW pqI-pqnI dw Awpxw hI Prz hY, ik iek dUsry nwl gl-bwq rwhIN lgwqwr sWJ bxweI rKx qy loVINdI Gwt nMU pUrw krn dy Xqn Awpxw Sugl, SOk, Prz Aqy izMmyvwrI smJx!

pr keI vwrI gl iksy vI kwrn krky A`gy inkl jWdI hY[ Kws kr Aj kl dy mhOl ivc qW dyKw dyKI qlwk hoxy SuRrU ho gey hn[ sRI gurU gRMQ swihb jI dI hzUrI ivc lwvW lY ky, jIvn swQ inBwaux dw pRx krky XW smJ ky, keI keI swlW bwAd vI qlwk huMdy Awm vyKy jWdy hn[ ieh iek scweI hY ik sRI gurU gRMQ swihb jI dI hzUrI ivc hoey hzwrW hI AnMd kwrj ipCly swlW ivc sMswr Br dIAW AdwlqW ivc qoVy gey hn qy ieh islislw jwrI hY[ iek pwsy AsI ipAwr nwl sRI gurU gRMQ swihb jI nMU s`cIAW srkwrW kih ky siqkwr krdy hW qy dUjy pwsy aunHW dy hzUrI ivc hoey AnMd kwrn nMU qoVn ligAW r`qw vI pRhyz nhI krdy! ieh swfI qrsXog qy hwso-hIxI hwlq bxI peI hY[

kI swfy isK smwj dw ies ivc koeI rol bxdw hY? jy bxdw hY qW kI? swnMU siqgurW ny is`K bxwieAw hY jo dUijAW dy duK-suK ivc sWJ krdw hoieAw kuJ nw kuJ auprwlw krdw hI rihMdw hY[

isK dw syllabus smwjk qOr qy ies pRkwr hY:

Awie imlu gurisK Awie imlu qU myry gurU ky ipAwry ] rhwau ]

pr Awm vyKx ivc ieh Awaudw hY ik qlwk q`k phMucI hoeI siQqI ivc koeI ivrlw hI irSqydwr XW dosq cMgw rol inBwaudw hY XW inBwaux dI soc rKdw hY[ sB ies qrIky nwl pwsw v`ty nzr Awaudy hn ijvy ieh joVy nMU pCwxdy hI nw hox! jwxdy vI nw hox! ieh ikqnI APsos vwlI g`l hY Aqy iek s`cy idAwnqdwrI vwly isK dI pirBwSw qoN ikqy duryfy mihsUs huMdI hY[

“ieh ienHw dw Awpxw mslw hY!”, “AsI kI lYxw?”, “swnMU kI?”, “Agly dy Gr bYsMqr dyvqw AwieAw hY, Awaux idau!” ….ieQoN q`k ik bhuq swry lok qW kljug dI cl rhI ruq dy ADIn ho ky ieh vI socdy hoxgy “ik cMgw hoieAw! ienHW dw Gr auJVn idau!” mwP krnw, ieh swfy smwj dIAW Aj kl dIAW scweIAW hn, koeI AqkQnIAW nhIN hn!

ijhVy lok ivAwh dy smyN qy qsvIrW iKcvwaudy nhI sn Qkdy, auh Aj lBdy hI nhI ik ikQy jw lu`ky hn, ausy qrW ijvy gvwcy dI qlwS krnI pvy qy gvwicAw hoieAw lBy hI nw! ieQoN qk ik ijnHw ny AnMd kwrj ivc hwzrI vI BrI huMdI hY, auh vI lw-pqw hI ho jWdy hn Xw Pyr Swied lMBy smyN leI ikqy CutI qy qur gey huMdy pRqIq huMdy hn!

swfy Dwrmk qbky ivc vI ieh glW Awm hI vyKIAw jWdIAW hn[ smwjk izMmyvwrIAW auQy vI koeI ivrlw hI smJdw hY[ sB lok rUhwnIAq dw fMkw qW vjwaudy hn pr ienswnIAq dI cwl koeI ivrlw hI cldw hY[ ijvyN purwqn simAW ivc gurU swihb jI dw is`DW nwl vwrqwlwp bwry XW aus smyN dy is`DW dy vqIry bwry, BweI swihb BweI gurdws jI Purmwaudy hn, auh hI vrqwrw, Aj dw isK Dwrmk BweIcwrw vI kridAW nzr Aw irhw hY:

isD Cip bYTy prbqI kauxu jgiqR kau pwir auqwrw]

swfI puSwk qW isMGW XW isKW vwlI hY pr model, mwP krnw jI, “isDW” vwlw hI bixAw hoieAw nzr Aw irhw hY[ jy nMbr dyxy hox qW clo 90% kih leIey ik isDW vwlw hI sB isKW dw vqIrw bixAw nzr AwauNdw hY[ Prk ieqnW hI hY ik “is`D” prbqW vwly AsQwnW qy jw ky smwj qoN indifferent ho jWdy sI qy AsI Ajoky isK, SihrW ivc rihMdy hoey hI, dUsirAW pRqI ieh indifference DwrI qy ApxweI bYTy hW[

AweIey muV gurmq dy ivSy qy, ieh gurmq dI cwl nhI! gurm`q eykqw isKwaudI hY!  lokW nMU, prvwrW nMU, jQybMdIAW nMU iekiTAW krnw gurm`q Awpxw Prz qy izMmyvwrI smJdI hY qy ies dy pUirAW hox au~qy Awpxy DMn-Bwg mihsUs krdI hY[ hWjI, gurmq ieh isKwaudI hY

ieho ivcolw Awix imlwvY ]

gurm`q ies cwl dI pujwrI hY, ies cwl nMU hr iksm dy JgVy leI vrqdI hY[ kI cwl hY jI, auh?

hoie iekqR imlhu myry BweI duibDw dUir krhu ilv lwie ]
hir nwmY ky hovhu joVI gurmuiK bYshu sPw ivCwie ]1]

ies cwl nMU ApxwieAW qy AmlI qOr qy vrqidAW, sB glW dw hl inkl AwauNdw hY[ gurm`q sB nMU iek prvwr smJdI hoeI eykqw dw auprwlw krnw Awpxw Prz smJdI hY:

ibliC ibnod Awnµd suK mwxhu Kwie jIvhu isK prvwr ]1]

gurm`q, Awpxy ivhVy ivc hoey AnMd kwrj dy hr pihlU Aqy p`K nMU pUrw huMdw vyKxw vI AwpxI izMmyvwrI smJdI hY Aqy iesy ivc hI ies dI KuSI hY[

gurm`q ivc “Awpxw” prvwr dw sMDrB bhuuq ivSwl qy bhuq vfw hY[ auQy “Awpxw” prvwr dw cOigrdw bhuq vfw huMdw hY[ gurmq swnMU sB isKW nMU prvwr dw dwierw ieh d`s rhI hY:

“ijsu nwmu irdY iqsu vf prvwrw ]”

ienHW ivcwrW rwhI swnMU ies gl dw igAwn ho irhw hY ik swnMU sB isK prvwrW nMU Aqy ies qoN vI Agy sB jgq nMU Awpxw hI prvwr smJdw cwhIdw hY[ siqgurW ny qW AYlwn krky kih hI idqw ik aunW dw prvwr kOx hY:

suKI bsY moro pirvwrw ]syvk is`K sBY krqwrw ]2]

ienHw gurmq ivcwrW nMU Apxwaudy hoey, sB nMU iek prvwr smJdy hoey AwE Awpxy Prz pihcwxIey!

Industry circles ivc ieh concept Awm pRclq hn:

·       Third Party peace-making interventions

·       Conflict resolutions

ieQoN qk ik goirAW XW iesweIAW dy smwj ivc Marriage Restoration XW Marriage Reconciliation concept Awm pRclq vyKy jWdy hn[ pr swfw isK smwj ienHW glW qoN by-iPkr hoieAw qy AxgihlI vrqdw, rswql vl ruiVAw jw irhw hY[ loV hY Awpxy isK smwj ivc ienHW syvwvW nMU pRclq krn dI!

kuJ hyT ilKy ivcwr sMgq dy ivcwr gocry hwzr hn[ ienHw ivcwrW (ideas / suggestions) dI implementation krn nwl swfy smwj ivc bhuq vfw suDwr Aw skdw hY[ ies swfw Brosw hY jI!

1)         irSqydwrW dw rol XW Prz: guris`KI Anuswr jdoN koeI Gr ivc sm`isAw Aw jWdI hY qW kdrW-kImqW nMU mu`K rKidAW qy idAwnqdwrI nMU vrqidAW, Gr dy sMbMDq irSqydwrW nMU, Kws krky jo QoVI vfI aumr Aqy qjrby vwly hox, smisAwvW nMU h`l krnw cwhIdw hY[AYsw krn nwl irSqydwrW dI gurisKI bwry smJ qy soJI action ivc AwauNdI nzr AwvygI Aqy aunHW irSqydwrW dI vifAweI vI pRgt hovygI[ BwvyN swrw isK BweIcwrw iek prvwr hY pr GrylU muidAW nMU muK rKidAW, irSqydwrW dw Prz bxdw hY ik joVy nMU iekiTAW ibTw ky aunW nwl gl bwq krn Aqy aunHW dIAW problems nMU smJdy hoey aunHW dI mdd krn[ ieh kyvl Prz jI nhI smiJAw jWxw cwhIdw sgoN izMmyvwrI vI smJxI cwhIdI hY[

pr dyKx ivc Awaudw hY, ik ieh izMmyvwrI koeI ivrlw hI irSqydwr inBwaudw hY jo “smwjk guris`KI” dI smJ rKdw hovy qy Awpxy PrzW nMU pUirAW krnw Drm dw AMg smJdw hovy!

2)         dosqW/ imqrW dw Prz: ieh vI vyKx ivc Awaudw hY ik jdoN ivAwhk joVw iksy Ax-bx dw iSkwr ho jwvy qW bhuqy “im`qr / dosq” ikqy dUr hI B`j jwdy hn[ koeI AwpxI bxdI izMmyvwrI nhI smJdw qy pCwxdw! ienHW mOikAW qy ivcoly dI AiqAMq loV huMdI hY[jdoN koeI qIjI cMgI inrp`K iDr ivc Aw jwvy qW auh bhuq sohxw qy cMgw rol inBwA skdI huMdI hY qy ivAwhk joVy nMU Pyr iek`iTAW krn dI SkqI rKdI hY[

cMgy Aqy AslI dosq / im`qr bhuq cMgI syD dy skdy huMdy hn qy ipAwr Aqy hwsy-Kyfy ivc hI joVy nUM iek`iTAW krn ivc bhuq sohxw rol inBw skdy hn[

iksy dy kMm Awauxw, iehI s`cI im`qrqw dI inSwnI hY[

“suK mY Awin bhuqu imil bYTq rhq chU idis GyrY ]”

ieh vrqwrw qW jgq ivc Awm vyKx nMU imldw hI hY pr

jnm mrx duhhU mih nwhI jn praupkwrI Awey ]

XW Pyr

mÚ 5 ]
ijn@w idsMdiVAw durmiq vM\Y imqR AswfVy syeI ]
hau FUFydI jgu sbwieAw jn nwnk ivrly kyeI ]2]

vwly gurisK, BweI, mIq, dosq ijnHW nMU vyK ky qlwk vwlI Bwvnw, joVy ivcoN Awpxy Awp hI iqAwgI jwvy, AYsy gurisK lBxy hI pYNdy hn qy ivrly huMdy hn[pr vD qoN vD iek dUjy dI shwieqw krnI qy kMm Awauxw cwhIdw hY[ imqrW dw rol bhuq Aihm hY jo imqrW nMU inBwauxw cwhIdw hY[

3)        prcwrk vIrW dw rol: isK Drm ivc qlwk dI AwigAw nw hox krky Aqy AnMd kwrj dI rsm Awm qOr qy prcwrkW vloN inBweI jwx krky, qlwk jW qlwk vl vDdI qor nMU rokxw, sulJwauxw, nyk Aqy lwiek prcwrkW dw vI Prz Aqy izMmyvwrI hY[

Dwrmk Kyqr ivc hox krky, prcwrk Awm qOr qy Awm bMidAW qoN izAwdw igAwn rKdy hn qy ies krky qlwk nMU rokx ivc bhuq izAwdw Aqy vDIAw rol inBw skdy hn[

isK prvwrW ivc qlwk nMU rokx leI hr isK prcwrk nUM auqSwhq rihxw cwhIdw hY qy AwpxI izMmyvwrI smJxI cwhIdI hY[

AwE, ies lyK dI AKIr ivc ieh vI ivcwr leIey ik iek ivcoly (Bwv negotiator) dw kI rol hY Aqy aus ivc ikhVy ikhVy gux hoxy cwhIdy hn!

muK qOr qy iek ivcoly dy XW ivcoligrI kr rhI tIm dy, swfI smJ Anuswr, 3 Aihm gux XW SrqW hoxIAW zrUrI hn[ AwE, ivcwrIey ik ivcoilAW ivc ikhVy 3 gux hoxy zrUrI hn[

1)         ivcolw (XW ivcoligrI kr rhI tIm) inrp`K hovy Aqy idAwnqdwrI Anuswr ivAwhk joVy nMU muV iekiTAW krn dw idlI cwhvwn hovy[ ies ivc nwl ieh kihxw vI auicq hY ik ieh swry kwrj leI ivcolw auqSwhq hovy qy ies cwA nwl BirAw hovy ik vwihgurU jI imhr krx qy ieh joVw muV iek`iTAW ho jwvy[ Bwvnw Aqy cwA qoN ibnw iksy vI kwrj dI sPlqw nhI iml skdI!

2)         jdoN vI koeI qlwk dy nyVy siQqI phuMcI hovy qW ieh suBwvk hY ik donW iDrW dIAW iek dUjy pRqI AwpxIAW AwpxIAW iSkwieqW huMdIAW hn[ ienHW nMU sulJwauxw Aiq lwzmI huMdw hY[ivcoligrI krn dw ieh lwB huMdw hY ik pqI qy pqnI Awpxw Awpxw guBwr / iSkwieqW / issues / mu`dy iksy ivcoly nMU ds skdy hn[ jy ivcolw hovy hI nw qW Pyr qW qlwk vwly pwsy gl jw hI rhI huMdI hY ijs nMU rokxw hI qW ivcoly dw rol hY Aqy izkr kIqw jw irhw hY[

ivcoly dw ieh dUjw vfw gux Aqy loV hY ik auh pqI pqnI dy iekiTAW krn ivc, jo donW dIAW iSkwieqW Aqy issues hn, aunHw nMU suxy qy aunHW dw hl lBy!

audwrhx dy qOr qy mMn leIey ik iksy qlwk nMU rokx ivc iek ivcolw rol inBw irhw hY[donW pqI pqnI nMUU AwpxI AwpxI iSkwieq iek sUcI (list) ivc ilKx dI ihdwieq kIqI jw skdI hY[ donW dIAW sUcIAW (lists) ivcoN iek iek gl nMU, Bwv iek iek point nMU, ivcolw XW ivcoligrI kr rhI team, suxy, sulJwvy, Aqy Xog PYslw suxwauNdI, share krdI hoeI Agy vDdI jwvy[

“hWjI Point # 7, BYxjI ieQy qusI glq ho! swfy iKAwl ivc ieh gl vIrjI / BwjI / BweI swihb jI dI (Bwv husband dI ) TIk hY[ ikau jI (tIm dy bwkI members dw opinion lYNdy hoey…) kI ivcwr hY Awp sB dw?” iesy pRkwr tIm dy hor pRymI ies gl dw Awpxw ivcwr idMdy hoey joVy nMU ipAwr nwl mnwauNdy hoey Agy vDI clx!

“clo jI, Agly point qy gl krdy hW….point # 8….myry iKAwl ivc vIrjI qusI ieQy glq ho, AsI BYxjI vl (Bwv wife vl) hW ies point qy[ ikau ipAwirE, kI ivcwr Awp sB dw (tIm dy bwkI sihXogIAW nwl gl krdy hoey)?”

ies prkwr donW pqI Aqy pqnI dy, iek iek krky swry point address kIqy jw skdy hn[

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